Everyone of us are quite familiar with the word 'FEAR'. So the question here is what is fear? Some name it as 'False Evidence Appearing in Real' others says fear is an illusion...there are so many definitions for fear based on different perspectives. In general, fear is a state of our mind.There are many occasions in which we experience fear in our day to day life. It happens to everyone in some way or the other. It doesn't matter whoever you are, every single one of us have fear.So before you discover the 'idea' for winning over fear, let's have a deeper understanding about the entity called fear.
When we were born,the obsessive baggage of FEAR was not with us. We were FEARLESS. But along the way, we have been taught about fear by our parents,and people around us.Slowly this unknown entity started growing within us. gradually it has strengthened our limiting beliefs...and now, this limiting beliefs acts as stumbling blocks between failure and success.
Fear can occur in many situations and in many ways. The biggest appearance of fear that pulls a person from achieving his desired goal of success is the Fear of Failure. And the fear that causes biggest mental pain is the Fear of Regret!
Other important common appearance of fear can be:
The fear of Poverty
The fear of Criticism
The fear of Ill Health
The fear of Loss of Love of someone
The fear of Old Age
The fear of Death
All other fear comes under the above categories.
As we know that fear is a state of mind, and everyone of us feel fear, then how can a person win over this strange mental state?
Most people unknowingly allow fear to dominate their lives. They search for ways to eliminate fear by reading books, articles, watching videos and listening to audio tapes.
They learn so many methods and techniques to get rid of fear, and are well aware of the causes of their fear. But when occasion comes, they experience the feelings of fear over and over again. Finally they end up getting disappointed and surrender to fear by quitting.
Some people run towards their fear. They embrace their fear continuously without losing heart. They do not search for ways to eliminate fear, instead they accept fear as a part of the process and understand how to control the feeling of fear.
They discover that the key secret to winning over fear is by knowing how to handle the 'feeling of fear' and applying it.
For them, fear is a wake up call! not an enemy. The reason is because their fear of 'Regret' allows them to get out of their comfort zone and force them to work for their dreams.
Successful people use this power of fear for their advantage. Not against them. Their FEAR of REGRET is more painful than the fear of failure and rejection. As a result they take action continuously for the success they want from their lives.
The more stronger your fear of regret, the more action you will take to overcome it. So the level of success too.This is the idea.
USE FEAR INSTEAD OF HAVING FEAR USE YOU!
Here is how you can use fear for your benefit:
Well, go to a calm and quiet place, take few deep breaths slowly and relax for 2 minutes...then,
Ask yourself the following questions and honestly answer for each question,
How your life will be few years from now, if you continue the same way of living? Will it be painful or pleasurable?
What will it costs you, if you don't work for your dreams?
If you don't take action at least from now on,where your life will end up in the future?
(for e.g. If I don't go to gym, how my physical body condition will be in the future? If I don't take action for my business, how will it affects my financial destiny?....If I don't do this(your goal)now, what can happen (outcome) to me in the future?...etc.)
When you visualize your future, feel how much pain your current lifestyle will bring to you. The bigger the pain, the stronger will be the fear of regret and larger will be your desire to take massive action for the result you are after. This idea works based on our natural tendency, to avoid pain. We'll do anything to avoid pain.
If a person can successfully utilize this idea to win over fear, then it takes no discipline to work for his/her goals. It takes no discipline to take action consistently. Because our fear of regret will make us do everything required for the accomplishment of our goals every single day until we achieve it!
Do it now, don't procrastinate, don't be lazy, don't underestimate this idea as something silly,because the most valuable assets you have right now is your life and time.Don't let it pass by as it is, make it worthy and yearn and earn the very best out of it. Don't let the feelings of fear hold you back from achieving the life of your dreams.Understand that fear is your wake up call to do something great with your life, and it can help you grow beyond unimaginable heights.
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